How often in our sex life at first glance appear small setbacks and challenges that have to be one on one, and answering a partner with the best intentions, to dissemble: “All right, darling, it was just beautiful. ” On this little lie speaks dreary inner echo “so-so.” And after knocking idea why, instead of scorching feeling, which they sing and write, shout from the screens, to be content with his weak echo? And another and another … Why? We all have the same structure! Or maybe he is guilty – did something wrong, is not it? .. The list of questions each time growing, becoming longer and the inner sense dissatisfaction – sharper and despair. Of course, you can convince yourself that about the “little death” more noise and fantasy than actual fact. What perhaps most raises the noise for the sake of his vanity and romance.
Or you itself has managed to be in that rare, according to statistics from the category, which simply is not given to experience in bed enchanting feeling of passion? But cheating partner and myself in this situation – most of the evils that a woman could be solved only through ignorance of obvious truths. And the facts are. Physicians and psychologists have long established that the reason for the lack of orgasm – not counting the total lack of experience partners – are not only functional, congenital causes, many psychosomatic associated with the various “taboo” and complexes, rooted in cultural and family traditions, education and dependence on the views of others. The origins of intimate problems among these complexes, leaving far behind all other causes, the leader, “shame.” To understand how and why this is a harmless sense, in other situations is part of the female appeal, may make in this case is so devastating effect, we must return to the roots of its meaning and mechanisms of influence on our body. Shame – a feeling of awkwardness, stiffness, shame, appearing in person in the commission of acts contrary to the moral, the moral standards of conduct adopted by them as a measure of “correctness”. As a result, when they are violated there are concerns to be “unworthy” and fear of losing attractiveness in the eyes of a partner. From a physiological and medical point of view, shame, fear – it’s a spasm, tension.
Becomes moist skin, muscle strain, cold lump of clot in the hypochondrium stomach – is experiencing the symptoms of shame and fear. Psychologically, this state you are staying busy, controlling every step, gesture, “spectator” of his actions, and not a participant of the event. Whole body at this point absorbed is your inner fears, emotions, nullifying any sensations from the outside. Can we expect that in such a situation, the partner will not only help you relax, but also to bring so that you will experience Other, more vivid sensations? Probably not. Fear – a very strong feeling that can block everything else. And again, at best, you get “so-so.” What is a “good” and what is “bad” in bed How to get rid of stiffness, which prevents relaxation from this shame, if its roots – it’s tradition, education, constitutes the very foundation of our personality? You can not just go and wipe out the memory of the life of a whole stratum of the past, principles by which you live? Read delee.
