The men we are gregarious creatures. Like the rest of the primates, early humans were grouped to defend themselves and, above all, to have a structure in which to maintain a few offspring unable to fend for themselves until an inconceivable age elsewhere in the animal world. Thus was born the family. And with it developed that as strong interest in knowing the souls of others and know that someone knows and enjoys with ours. That is the source of friendship and love.

While much of the communication is vitiated by falsehoods and selfish interests, men still feel the need to really know the people and improve the way we communicate. That is the success of body language. Body language is a field of study that provides us with tools fascinating to meet our partners. If you read this article you will discover one of the most useful: the technique of wiper. Thanks to this wonderful technique of body language will know if someone empathizes with you, i.e., that It is willing to collaborate and work as a team or whether, by contrast, keeps an ACE up the sleeve or is not willing to join a team even though he claims to the contrary. Before proceeding with the technique, I’ll explain the theoretical basis that makes it work.

For this we need to distinguish between two similar but different emotions: sympathy and empathy. Sympathy allows us to feel the same as another person knowing, in addition to that person well falls us. It is a variant of the empathy that we feel towards friends, family and people with which we identify ourselves. Empathy, on the other hand is a more universal capability. Consists in the ability to feel the same as someone even though we do not know you or even though us not fall well. Empathy is an innate mimicry in the man who grows and trains with the experience, and allows us to put ourselves in the place of any other person. Therefore, if you intend to work in a team, even with strangers he empatizara with them. If you are using a computer for their own purposes, if you are going to take advantage of not empatizara with them. Body language gives us a very easy and powerful tool to measure the empathy of a subject to us: the technique of wiper. But never speak while looking in the eyes, look for the face of your partner and place yours exactly in the same axis as the other face, completely parallel to him. Then very gently, move his head according to a lateral axis, the same movement that makes a wiper. In situation of empathy and, only in a situation of empathy, your interlocutor will change the inclination of his face to run parallel to you. You can ensure their intentions by making this move several times. If the axis of his head is yours, you still both mental and physical. If, on the contrary, does not move (almost with certainty will have the face rigid and inclined to the right) refuses to empathize with you. Be careful, you want to exploit or ignore him. I am going to give a few simple duties. Make the technique of the windshield which I have explained it. Use this wonderful tool of non-verbal communication. Vera as it is capable of perceiving the empathy of his interlocutor with a staggering efficiency. Feel free to comment on any doubt or suggestion.